I was once in a position where I worked with people that were regarded to be very important on subjects that were deemed (by those very same, very important people) to be very important. I had rank, was healthy, strong and could remember what I had for breakfast. Today, I have no position, do not work on anything terribly important to anyone else, and can not remember having breakfast, let alone what it was. The remarkable thing is that my happy/unhappy ratio is just about the same as it was back when I was important. Most of all, I understand how fortunate I am. I am married to a wonderful person, we have our own home, and, so far, at least, we can manage to scrape together enough pennies to take care of day-to-day expenses. I see a lot of other people at all stages of life who can not find happiness and I shake my head (slowly to avoid the disturbing sound of excessive rattling) and take pity on them. My advice to my elderly friends is to adopt my secret approach to aging.
First, you have to take an honest look at yourself as you are today, not back in your glory days. You have to accept your limitations and polish any advantages you might still have from back when you were smoking hot poop. You don’t have to tell others about any of your failings that they might not yet know about, but you have to understand them and accept them. Second, you have to understand that you can not retire. To retire is to die. You may not be able to any longer do what you used to do, but you need to do something that exercises as much of mind and body as is left from the glory days. Anything that retires, rusts and disintegrates more rapidly than would otherwise be the case, and that includes people. Third, you have to be judicious as to how much cutting edge technology you incorporate into your life. In my case, passwords are obviously meant for younger minds. Fourth, you have to be ruthlessly honest with yourself and understand exactly where you are on the inevitable slippery slide to oblivion. Pretending that you are more capable than you are is going to lead to great disappointment when the secret is outed because you crapped in your pants at the church social.